UKuSoma ...Umtshado WeSintu Part 1.  ---- #11

 Sinanzelele ukuthi umtshado weSintu uhlelwe ngezahluko ezimbili. Isahluko sakuqala sisisusa ngokusukelana kwababili laba abatshadayo ekuqaliseni behlangana okwakuqala kusiyacina uMakoti esiyaMekeza kibo kandoda.

UkuMekeza is the final and climax Act yomtshado weSintu. Nxa uMakoti engasaMekezanga, yooo ...akulamtshado weSintu ke lapho Mthwakazi. Kulomtshado of the oppressed nje nxa kungelakuMekeza.

Ngakho ke nxa ijaha lisukela intombazane wonke umuntu amehlo ahlala esebheke ngosuku lokuMekeza kukaMakoti ngakibo kajaha okuba yibufakazi ukuthi kusukela lelilanga lokuMekeza kukamakoti laba bobabili sebekhulile.

UKuSoma

Lingena lapha ke Isiko le Sintu sokuSoma. Majaha lezintombi ilizwe lisahlezi, kusakhonjwa ngophakathi kwakungaqalwa ngokukhombisana mfana le nkazana lingakaSomi. ISigaba sokuSoma yiso esiqalayo besekulandela esokuKhombisa.

Kanti uzamkhombisa njani umuntu ongamaziyo, kumbe uzamkhomba jani umuntu ungamazi? Uzamkhombisa njani kumbe umkhombe njani umuntu abakibo ungabazi? Ingakibo ungayazi?Phela usungalutheza olulenkume.

Dibadiba lomuntu e supermarket selikhombisana. Ukhombisani yakhona oyaziyo lapha jaha?

UkuSoma bekunikeza laba asebehlangene ababonanayo kodwa bengazani ithuba lokuthi;

A)    Bazane kahlekahle ukuthi wena ongikhombisayo ungubani.....mina ongikhombisayo akungikhangele kuhle ungazi ukuthi ngingubani owangaphi kobani?

B)    Kubanikeza ithuba lokuthi bazi izihlobo zabo zonke njalo ingakibo yabo bayazi beyiqonda ukuze bathathisise isiqiniseko sokuthi bayafuna sibili ukuthi abantwana abazabazala lapha emhlabeni lezi kubeyizo izihlobo zabantwababo. Umuntu ulemizila emine yezihlobo ngakho ke kudingeka ithuba ukuthi nxa ungayisuye wakhona uzazi kuhle uziqonda kumizila le yomine lezi zihlobo ngoba you are choosing your future children’s relatives lapha on their behalf.

C)    Batholane ukuthi balombono ohambisanayo ngokwakha impilo yini.

UkuSoma lisiko eselafayo koMthwakazi lapha; kodwa abantu bahamba bayakopa elabelungu okuthiwa yi Dating. I’m sure abantu bakopa elesilungu leli ngoba lilula njalo li shallow than eli kaMthwakazi elokuSoma.

Engingakutsho yikuthi ukuSoma you are dating deep majaha lamankazana. Lenza izinto lonke phambi kwabazali lezihlobo labontanga benu belokhe belifunza njalo nje ukuthi lapho elifuna ukuyangena khona kungaphi njalo kunjani, kuzafunekani kuwe.

 Wonke umuntu uyabe esazi ukuthi alikakhombani lingabangane nje abangaphetha bekhombisana. Lisoma Lize liyethathana I temperature amanxeba wonke asemzimbeni omunye liwazi.
UKusoma kuthatha minimum 2 years and maximum 5  years. Lingakholwa konke eliyabe lihlangane lakho during this period selingangena ke kusigaba esilandelayo esokuKhombisana.

Singaloba ibhuku phela ngeSintu sokuSoma lemikhuba yakhona kodwa asikhumbuleni ukuthi kayisiyo injongo yethu lapha. Injongo yethu yikubeka nje izigaba zomtshado weSintu.

ISixwayiso:

UKusoma kwakulithuba eliqakathekileyo lokufundisa abatsha abasakhulayo about values that sustain marriages and build strong family relations. Wonke umuntu wayehamba through this public marriage orientation ngokweSiko le Sintu sakoMthwakazi.  

The main subjects zesikhathi sokuSoma were;
1)    Sexual tolerance
2)    Interpreting romance
3)    Respect for opposite sex in public spaces
4)    Social networking ku zihlobo lakubangane
5)    Inhlonipho yezihlobo labomakhelwane
6)    Ukugeza lomceco
7)    Common goals and shared vision

Konke lokhu kubizwa "Ubuntu"

A lot of challenges abantu abahlangana lazo kumitshado yabo kulezinsuku such as domestic violence, unwanted pregnancies or abuse of women in public places for such simple things as dress codes kubangwa nje yikuthi young people skipped the age of uKuSoma besakhula and cut straight to adult age without any form of life training or marriage orientation.

 UkuSoma activities koMthwakazi in female or male groups, in private or in community sessions yikho obekukhulisa umuntu ekwakheni lekugcineni umuzi wakhe. Not any longer in today’s society of the television and phone screens.

Lafa elihle ngoba uMthwakazi wayakhiwe ngokuhleleka okuphezulu esebenzisa AmaSiko le Sintu sakhe. Yikho nje babekhala bababaze bangaqedi abadala ngelizwe lisahlezi lokuchitheka kwalo.

Asihlanganeni next sesikhangela isigaba sokuKhombisa kumtshado weSintu.

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