UMtshado weSintu Part 1,  ---- #10

Utshoni uMtshado eSintwini?

Singakangeni kusiji sokuqhutshwa komtshado weSintu kuzakubakuhle ukuthi siphe incazelo yokuthi umtshado lo yini njalo ubusitshoni kubantu umtshado. Sichaza umtshado ngokweSiko leSintu sikaMthwakazi; Umtshado ngumcimbi wokuthakazelela ukukhula kwabantwana ababili; a celebration of two young people who have come together and decided to grow up and be adults.

Asithatheni ibala UKUKHULA; UMthwakazi ubekhangela ukukhula to mean;
A)    Full independence,
B)    Attainment of all human freedoms,
C)    Self dependence

UKUKHULA lokhu kuza lokwemukela 3 critical responsibilities eSintwini sakoMthwakazi;

A)    Ukwandisa lokuqhelisa iSizwe ngokukhulisa uSendo lwakini egumeni lenu
B)    Ukugcina kuhle ilizwe lezemvelo kusigaba eliphila kiso elizweni
C)    Ukuzimela kwezomnotho liyimuli, self dependence and self sufficiency.

Ungazake uthi commit to the above responsibilities ukuthi ungazenza uwedwa ziphumelele zonke. Ngakho as long as you remain single koMthwakazi kutsho ukuthi awukakhuli and therefore you deserve no celebration feast,  umtshado (wedding).

When two people find each other and make the commitment to grow up ngokwemukela the above three responsibilities, then the first thing they deserve is a growing up celebration, umtshado.

ESintwini bathi umuntu ukhula ngezenzo hatshi ngeminyaka.

Ngakho ke koMthwakazi umtshado is a very special celebration of commitment to grow up! Ubukhangelwa njalo umtshado njalo ubuphathwa njalo. Umcimbi wababili asebevumelane ukuchapha umzila wokusuka ebuntwaneni bangene ebudaleni, badale ukuphila kuhle abakufunayo  kwaboSendo lwabo, okuyikho okwenza babizwe ngokuthi bangabadala.

Different set of values

Lamhlanje umtshado means a very different set of values kulaseSintwini sezolo.
Ababili sebetshadela in the sitting room yangakibo and expect other family  members not to interfere with their marriage.  Yeyilina Mthwakazi!

Abanye sebetshadela echurch kubaba uMfundisi lo mama uMamfundisi and expect the church leadership not to run their marriage. Yeyilina Mthwakazi!

Abanye njalo batshada ngoba they now have a job and a salary and expect the pay check not to interfere with their marriage. Yeyilina Mthwakazi!

Abanye batshadela kubo mastanda and rented apartments and expect the landlord not to come kicking at their door every month end. Yeyilina Mthwakazi!

We can go on and on kodwa,okusalayo njalo lomcijo esiwubekayo lapha yikuthi the meaning of umtshado weSintu izolo and the meaning of umtshado today sekwehlukene. The six points raised above are no longer part of the meaning of  umtshado today.

Siyephambili

Njengoba sesichazile ngokuthi umtshado weSintu ubusitshoni sesingaqhubeka singene ekutheni ubusenziwanjani kumtshado weSintu part 2. Kodwa singakayilapho kasivuleni inkundla sizwe imibono nge defination yomtshado weSintu le esiyifake lapha lamhlanje, besesiqhubeka ngesihloko sethu somtshado weSintu.

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